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I love to dance, anyone who knows me can attest to that fact, but it is also a good way to find out a lot about a person. I am going to let you you in on some things to look for when dancing with someone that can you a lot about that person's personality.
1. How They Ask You The biggest thing for most people is mustering up the courage to ask someone to dance. How someone ask you tells a lot about that person. Do they ask you respectfully, confidently, in a cocky manner, with a touch of shyness, or like they just want to take you home? Be able to tell this because most of times how they ask you tells you a lot about a person. Pay attention if you are being asked, and pay mind to how you ask a person because first impression go a long way.
I also want to blow away the misconception that girls aren’t supposed to ask guys to dance. Girls, ask the guys, there is nothing more sexy than a confident woman asking a guy to dance. Even if you can’t dance that is how you learn. Today’s society has changed ladies, and don’t think you are too good to ask a guy to dance. Be confident and ask them. Also, don’t ever have someone else come and ask somebody for you; you always do the asking.
2. Going to the Floor When a person leads you on the floor do they put their hand in the small of your back, do they do they hug walk all the way to the floor, do they lead you with their hand, do they not touch you at all, or do they pick you up and put you on the floor? Take notice, you can tell if a person is just dancing or if they are into you here. If they lead you by hand, usually it is a just friends deal. If they pick you up and sling you to the floor, they haven’t seen you in a while or adore you. If there is no touch, they don’t even want to be dancing with you. If a guy puts his hand in the small of a girls back, they usually like that girl a lot. If it is the hug walk, they usually are really close friends or there could be something more there, depends on the situation.
3. On the Floor This is where you find out the most. Look for someone who asks questions and always has a smile while dancing. If they are concentrated on you, look you in the eyes, and speak about you with questions, they are usually interested. If a person is staring around, they usually aren’t interested, they are looking for their next dance partner. Take notice in how they hold you too. Is it with grace, timidness, arrogance, or lustfulness. If a guy holds you close and in the small of your back, he likes you ladies. If he is reaching for your butt, its lustfulness. If he is confident, he will hold you with grace. If they are awkward, they are timid to be dancing with you, probably shy and like you, but don’t have the confidence to show it.
4. Look at their Style This isn’t to tell if they are into you, that should have already been discovered, This is their personality. These conclusions have been drawn over a lot of people watching and getting to know those people. The first style is fast and hard. This style usually means this guy or girl moves from one to the other quickly. They do a lot of spinning and they listen, but don’t really hear the music. These people usually go the same speed and don’t understand the beat to each song. This usually signifies they are about themselves and don’t listen to people. Look next time you dance, you’ll see this. Be wary, these are the heartbreakers. The next style is fun and goofy. My brother signifies this well. You never know what to expect from them, and this is true for their life. They are a blast to be around, walk that fine line of cockiness and confidence, and they don’t care what people think of them. They are good dancers, but are all about the good time and enjoy life to the fullest. Next, we have the graceful dancer. This dancer takes pride in things. They own the floor when on there and people love to watch their smoothness. These folks are usually just good people. It is about the dancing and people love to dance with them because their love for dance comes out. People have mixed emotions about this type. Some see them as cocky, others see them as approachable. These types usually love life and don’t let the hard times get them down. They’re are the kind of people you want to make friends with. Now, lets talk about the structured dancer. This dancer usually does the same spins every routine, sometimes in the same places. They probably have a structured life and don’t like getting out of the ordinary. With a girl in this style she usually doesn’t like to try new stuff. They are fun to dance with, but after a while this style gets old. This paragraph is for the guys. You are the leader and the girl is the follower. If the girl leads you she probably is like that in relationships, with both friendships and love. If she doesn’t like to try new stuff, they won’t be spontaneous at all. They like to get in a set way and stick to the status quo. If they have trouble with beats, they usually aren’t good listeners and like to do the talking. If the initial attraction is there on the floor take notes on these little things.
5. The Goodbye Take a hint, here is how you tell if this is going somewhere as a friendship, relationship, or a heartbreak. The standard goodbye from the floor is the hug. Notice this hug and see what it means. An awkward hug means they probably aren’t that into you. Move on, you can dance with them again, but know it is no more than that. If the hug is prolonged and they get really into it, they like you. You can’t kiss a girl or guy after one dance, so you get as close as you can to them before the goodbye. If you like the person and they do a prolonged and passionate hug, and then they walk and talk to you off the floor, ask them again; they probably like you. If it is quick and fast, that person is probably looking for their next victim. They aren’t going to turn down a dance with you and will ask you again, but be weary, those people usually are looking for something else and if they can’t find it they come back to you.
Conclusion
There are many other things to look for in dancing. If you want to know about someone though, watch how they dance with others. You can see this stuff then. If you want to know if they like you ask them to dance and play close attention into how they hold you. If they hold you tight and rub their hand gently in “appropriate” places, they usually are into you. The main thing is to take chances, ask a person to dance, and watch how they dance. Get to know the person with a conversation on the floor. Don’t spin nonstop. The best dances I have ever had were with no spins and a conversation. Then others were the slow dance where we were cuddled up tight and the whole floor disappeared. This don’t happen often, but when it does it is spectacular.
Just make sure you have a blast dancing, and get to know who your dancing with. I have made many friendships, had many heartbreaks, broke some hearts, and got recognized by tons of people with my dancing. It is truly a self expression. So take pride in your style and dance antics, and remember it serves as an extension of yourself to the people watching. |
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